Thursday, January 11, 2007

Hello readers to my humble blog. Before I began my case study, I like to make an announcement:

I will not post any human case study for a while.

Apparently there's evidence that a lot of people were unhappy that I had taken an innocent girl(Yi Jia) as a subject and then talk about her. Of course I would not go on the senseless rambling of these people. I just felt that they are right and will not take it to heart. Hope that it won't affect my friendships with other people.

OK! Enough of this sad sissy stuff! As I have promised, I will be posting about case studies in future. After thinking it over, I will dedicate my posts to all strangers and friends reading the computer screen right now! Now, as you have already read the title, I am going to study a three-separate-part case study(Part 1, 2 and 3) about Friendship.


Friendship is an interesting word as it is used in our daily lifes almost everyday. For pre-school interpretion it means a ship designed specially for you and your friends(of course that's absolutely lame!). Friendship is the term used to judge the friendly relationship between two or more friends.

For this three part case study, I will talk about the first part today. It's about making friends with each other.

Perhaps by now, you are thinking why should you be at this page at this point of time. To read or to hear me 'teaching you kindergarten stuff'? No, I am merely talking about what's wrong with me since school reopen.
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I, Anselm, am 'too good to be true'...
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For the general meaning, of course I am not. But if you interpret as I always do, and read word by word, you would realise that I am too good to be true when making friends.

Perhaps you may begin to wonder: "What crap is he talking about?" Well, I am coming to that.
When I am making friends, I tend to be impatient, you see. One big example is the Yi Jia case in Case study I. I just went up to her, put on a big smile and say hello friendly, and then expect her to smile at me and reply a friendly 'hello' back.

Well, most people will be shocked that you are so formal to him or her. The key is that if you try to make friends with people(no matter boy or girl but in my case, girl) this way, people tend to think that you have a MOTIVE making friends with him or her.

Lots of people who study human feelings will know that:


We can make friends anytime, it is just how you do it and your attitude towards the issue.


Impatient friendship making(what I called IFM) is what's the problem with me. Such people will 1oo% give the person whom he or she is talking to an impression that if the person don't agree to befriend you, you will kill him or her. It will also give the person an impression that the way you treat him or her is too GOOD to be TRUE!

And... that's bad!

No matter what, IFM is a very bad habit to practise and I have realised it yesterday night. Well, what I have thought of is that try as far as possible to not let a person know that you want to befriend him or her. This is considered a technique that needs to be practised if you want a new impression from other people.

By the way, as for what happened today(if you read my previous post of my class, 3L1), I have made four new friends!

Geelyn(bad impression of IFM extinguished!)
Sarah(react exactly the same way as Yi Jia have reacted. Told you so!)
Cordelia(same group of literature project:) haha)
Herianti(she is friendlier than I thought!)


A last word for all readers out there that if you practise IFM, it's time to take a close look at yourself and change it AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! Stay tuned to Case study II --> Friendship(Part 2)!

Anselm's interpretation: Friendship is a slow and enjoyable process that can't be forced.


Thanks for reading! Strangers and Friends!
I posted at 4:58 PM