Monday, January 15, 2007
Hello readers and welcome to my humble blog.
Whew! How I hate Monday!!!(you will know why if you read the previous posts). School was quite ok except Geography where Miss Rashida yelled at someone as he was doing homework during her classes.
Well, I am checking in today as to continue my friendship post, and also to clarify something:
I am blogging for two main reasons:
1) Relieve stress(obvious)
2) Share with readers my feelings and thoughts(not all of course!!!)
People always have opinions about absolutely anything. Of course only boys will share with me their opinions of my blog, whether it is too crude or too sissy. But thanks anyway! I will change accordingly.
Now... back to the friendship topic. Today I am going to move on to part two of the friendship post: "Approaching and accepting".
Both words(excluding the 'and') have a very significant meaning in friendship. Accepting a friend means that you say yes and are willing to be his or her friend. Approaching a friend means to get closer to a friend and interact with him or her.
In my opinion, when you approach a friend(not good friends), you must never let him or her think that you have a motive when you interact with them. One big example is when you suddenly approach a person and greeted him or her in such a way that they must reply or else you will kill him.
Quoting from my previous part of friendship case study, we can make friends anytime, it is just how you do it and your attitude towards the issue. For people who want to make friends with other people, one must never practice IFM(you must read part 1 of friendship case study to understand). Hence the approach is very important, but less important than 'Accepting'.
For this post, accepting is the key and the MOST important of making a friend. When someone gives you the idea that they would like to make friends with you, you immediately need to decide whether you want to accept him or her or not.
Take for instance, people who are stuck up(I was once and hope that people would quickly forget that side of me), EXTREMELY quiet and unhelpful are usually friendless, or have only little friends. With no insult whatsoever to them, I suggest that they should change this attitude. As for me, I am still changing and of course need time. It is also about the sincerity that people look at when a person said he or she would change. Hence we should NEVER force someone to accept us, as people would only think that the person is big-headed and full of oneself, and will avoid that person.
Another skill(this is the adult standard) that is important is that you MUST NOT let a person know that you are not willing to accept him or her prematurely. It simply means that you should NEVER let a person know that you are unwilling to be his friend in an indirect manner. An even simplified version of the crap above is
Backstabbing.Well, among ten blogs that featured the blogger's likes and dislikes, nine would say they dislike, or even hate backstabbers. Of course, if you know a person feels that you are backstabbing him, and you ARE NOT, simply explain to him. You won't lose anything when you explain to a person if they misunderstood you. They will only think that you are a person with character!
You may be wondering: "Wah... Anselm. Very messy leh!" Well, perhaps one may take time to understand what I am talking about. A simple summarisation of what I have said:
Approaching: Best if done in a way that won't show your weakness. Be sincere in an approach!
Accepting: The most important point when it comes to making friends. You do not necessary have to leave a good impression, it is how you react to these issues and your way of handling.
Backstabbers: If you are one, I have nothing to say...(I was once one:( haiz)
By the way, more friends(well, maybe only one) on the list!
Wayne(He is a very friendly person)
Anselm's interpretation: Friendship can last as long as you know the approach, how to accept and not to backstab.
Thanks for reading! Strangers and Friends!
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