Tuesday, January 16, 2007

Hello readers and welcome to my humble blog.

Whew! Second day of the week! School was ok except Social Studies, when I am fighting the urge to go to Slumberland...

Well, that's lame!!! I am checking in with the last and final part of my case study of friendship. For today's case study, I am going to branch out from friendship. Basically I felt that I have shared with people that stared at this webpage yesterday more than enough about the term 'Friendship'. If I continue to ramble about it, people will think that I am long-winded...

Enough of these sissy stuff! As I was saying earlier, I am going to branch out from friendship for my part 3 of the case study. Clever readers should have known the topic by now:

Relationship

Relationship is a favourite topic among us as most of us are moving on to our teenagers stages. The relationship between two people is the way they feel and behave towards each other. It also means a VERY close friendship, one involving romantic and love feelings.

Entering the age of fifteen, people tend to think more about this issue(unless they have too much homework to worry about!) and often daydream about them. At this very interesting age group(15-18), we are counting our friends as the most important people in our life. That is, the people that we can interact freely are mostly our friends.

There are a lot of relationships that range from a different level of friendliness:

Normal friends(boy and boy, girl and girl, boy and girl),
Close friends(boy and boy, girl and girl are more common)
A close relationship(boy and girl)


I know that almost 99% of readers right now already know what is normal and what is close friends. So before I continue to study and interpret a close relationship between a boy and a girl, let's go for a quiz!


This quiz can be used to find out if you like a person or if you feel that someone likes you!!!

Crush, admire or like? Let's find out!

Q1) Usually, is there alot of chances you will get to meet him/her?
a. Not quite
b. We do, but not much talk between us
c. We do, and we interact alot with each other

Q2) Have you ever did a project or manage the same thing with him or her?
a. Never
b. A few times
c. Tons of times!

Q3) Have you ever participated and helped out in his/her birthday party?
a. Never. Didn't even know his/her birthday
b. Yes. Alot of people celebrated together
c. Yes, and I have given him/her birthday cards and presents as well

Q4) Have you ever get mad at him and thinks he/she should change?
a. Can la. Never thought of it
b. Quite. I don't like some of the things he/she did
c. Can la. I will share with him/her what I thought

Q5) Other than him/her, do you manage your other friends of DIFFERENT sex well?
a. I am better with my other friends of different sex
b. Can la. Quite the same feeling
c. I get along very well with him/her and so-so with other friends

Q6) According to how you know him, do you think he/she will ever backstab or do something bad at you?
a. Shouldn't. Anyway I am not very sure
b. Shouldn't. I think he/she is not that sort
c. Shouldn't. I knew he/she would never be that kind of person

Q7) He/she has always helped you in one way or another, or did something nice to you?
a. Never. He/she may even not know me that well!
b. Don't be lame! He/she will not do that from what I think.
c. Yes. He/she treats and talks to me gently and lovingly.

Q8) Did he/she did something touching to you in- or unintentionally?
a. Never. I don't quite spend alot of time with him/her
b. Yes. But I think it was unintentional
c. Yes. He/she really cares about how I feel and it is so unreal!

Q9) Did you know the relationships between him/her and other friends?
a. Not sure.
b. Yes, but I seldom interact with them.
c. Yes, I am quite familiar with them

Q10) Do you know what he/she normally eats?
a. Not quite sure. Never eaten with him/her before
b. Can la. I know his favourite dishes
c. Yes. I know his/her favourite food, stall and combination.

Q11) (mainly for girls)
If he/she suddenly tells you he/she likes you, what will you feel.
a. Very shocked and not ready for it
b. A little shocked and will not know what to do.
c. Well, should be okay. I knew it will be coming sooner or later.

THE END!

a=1point
b=3points
c=5points

Add them up and if you get

30 or less: Crush

Now that you are entering this age group, it is normal that you are easily attracted to the opposite sex and wanted to start a relationship. People that suited your taste will tend to make you dizzy with infatuation. It will then let you think that this is love.

Way out: Crushes seldom or never grow into a relationship. The best thing now is to at least muster some courage and befriend him/her. In this way, you can care and share with each other and move on to the next stage!

30-45: Admire

He/she has a point that lets you like him/her right now.(eg. guitar, piano or singing etc.)Or he/she tends to let you take a look at yourself and try to change yourself. It also lets you think that you can think it over whether to accept him/her, causing admiration.

Way out: You may have a high target for him/her. When he/she doesn't make it, you will tend to quarrel with him/her. Instead of strengthening the friendship, you worsen it. Remember... that admiring is not like. :)

Above 45: Like!!!

Congratulations. It is clear that both of you admire and like each other! You have a clear impression about his/her likes and dislikes, friends, family etc. and can guess his/her attitude towards you the very next moment. You know what you really want and know that he/she suits you and is a very good companion. Of course you like him/her.

Way out: Now that you know how and what you feel, you should work out the best way to express your feelings towards him/her. NEVER procrastinate. Remember... if you snooze, you lose!!! And then he/she could be taken away by other people! :)

Well, the above quiz clearly state some requirements you must know if you want to find out if you can nurture a relationship with your boy/girlfriend right now. If you think you are still young, simply ignore the above quiz and shut down your computer!!!

Relationships are not the priority right now for secondary students. It is clearly understandable that right now, students tend to focus on their studies instead of thinking about romance and what have you. You may be thinking now: Why is this guy(Anselm) telling us all these? Is he mad or what?

Well, thought I may share. Hahaha! :)

Anselm's interpretation:
Relationship cannot be forced between two people. For people that are now concentrating on their studies, I suggest that you should not let this post affect you too much. For those who think it is possible right now to start a relationship with a person of the opposite sex, read part 1 & 2 of my case study for skills of approach!!!

Well, that closes the topic about friendship. For future case studies, I will concentrate on what teenagers tend to think about nowadays! Until then, Goodbye and happy interpreting!


Thanks for reading! Strangers and Friends!
I posted at 4:16 PM